how to feed him


Posted by appa | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 24-02-2009

After what to name him, sooner or later came the next inevitable question how to feed him. And answering this question requires all the patience, creativity, imagination, energy that we can muster, and then some more! Our boy had no problems eating initially… but over time he just refused to eat… anything… He’d just play happily and run around and be active all day, anything but eat!

It was a real challenge as after a year or so, he simply stopped gaining any more weight and remains around the 8.5 kg that he had more or less been around 6 months ago, though the average is supposed to be around 10. The doctors assured us that as long as he’s active its fine but then its not too good to see him like some emanciated famine victim.

Anyway, here we will list in commments all the different ideas that we’ve tried to get hm to download atleast a few bites of food into his stomach as and when we recollect them (or come across any new ones).

Ideally we would like him to eat consciously and enjoy his meal. But it turns out that even the food that appeals to what appears to be a highly specialised kind of taste, he eats only a couple of spoons and says enough. So to get him to eat, its actually came down to kind of fooling him by getting him engrossed in something else and then feeding him in the background. So I guess most of the ideas to feed him would be about how to get him to be so engrossed that he isn’t noticing that he’s eating!

Most such ideas stop working after a while and then a new one, sometimes old ones can be recycled 🙂

We are hoping that we will soon be able to cultivate better eating habits as soon as he grows older, and he can start eating more comfortably and consciously!

assault on innocent victim's laptop


Posted by appa | Posted in destruction | Posted on 17-02-2009

In retrospect, it was no doubt a carefully plotted disaster. But to begin from the beginning, the assailant gradually approached unsuspecting owner who was sitting on the sofa with the laptop, engrossed in, no doubt affairs of world-saving importance. Ok actually he was video conferencing with his sister who lived at the other end of the city, so almost world-saving maybe. The assailant silently slipped in next to him. Suddenly there was a pfffft sound and there was water he had secretly stored in his mouth to spit all over the keyboard! The victim’s wife was at the scene of the crime within seconds, with a cloth to try and revoke the damage. The victim was in an immobilised state of shock for a few seconds and once comprehension dawned, took over the recovery process of trying to dry the laptop. He immediately shut it down… his understanding sister had understood already and had already signed off from the call. The assailant’s triumphant shreik of laughter was soon lost in the brief spanking that the victim’s wife gave him on his wrist (though of course the victim esp at that point believed he deserved much more). The assailant was observed to have felt a full four seconds of remorse, before it looked like he was up to whatever next item he might have on his agenda.

The victim, meanwhile, was taking no chances and rushed to his office room where he shouldn’t have budged his precious laptop from in the first place (hindsight is 20 20 they say, this is probably why.) He put the ceiling fan at the highest speed and kept the laptop under it, while hoping that the keyboard was spill proof. Later on, after recovering from this incident himself, he warily switched on his laptop again. It did boot and everything seemed quite ok, but the hard disk seemed to be making some eerie noises. Maybe it was because the victim had kept his ear 2 mm away listening more intently than he had ever listened to since he had procured the equipment some six months ago. Nevertheless, he shut it down again and deciding not to touch it till the next morning.

The victim’s wife later reported that she had seen the evil glint in the assailant’s eyes and she could see the whole thing coming and would’ve stopped him had he committed the crime a few seconds later. That was really helpful, and the victim thanked her very much.

There was speculation about whether the assailant had been communicating with his second cousin in Australia, who had been experienced in such matters, especially in having stuffed a few chapathis down his Dad’s CD ROM Drive a few years ago.

movie: bal ganesh


Posted by appa | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 08-02-2009

Here is a movie I probably wouldn’t have watched if not for Abhinav… Bal Ganesh had Ganesh’s story wonderfully animated with some snappy music. Conceptualisation is amazingly creative with the combination of ancient mythology with some modern concepts.

Here are some videos on the net… Shiva’s Tandav dance…

Well it did look like Abhinav’s first movie … almost, but not yet!  Though I’ve never seen him riveted to the tv for such a long time though…  eventually he did get off the chair and started wandering around again… Anyway, good thing as it might’ve been a bad influence on him as Ganesh was saying “how can I disobey mother’s orders in order to follow father’s orders” 😉

sleeping habits of a baby


Posted by appa | Posted in baby, sleep | Posted on 06-02-2009

Sometime back we had dinner with a German couple with their baby at our house, it was really a lovely evening. And first time I heard anybody who has tried the Ferber method… they said they were pretty succesful at it…

I had read about this earlier, but read it again. It may not be practical in India bcos atleast I dont hear of anybody having a seperate room for a child esp at such an early age.

The Ferber method demystified

One of the related links I really liked is this one – looks like we follow it to a certain extent … I usually start with a conventional story, but when he’s still not asleep i keep on extending it and it feels nice to tell the story – and I’m going back to my school days of creative writing 🙂

Establishing a bedtime routine with your baby

FW: children are from heaven


Posted by appa | Posted in kids | Posted on 06-02-2009

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Nice email forwarded by Sudhee…

Children Are from Heaven

Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children

By Gray, John


Copyright © 2004 John Gray
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0060930993

Children Are from Heaven

All children are born innocent and good. In this sense our children are from heaven. Each and every child is already unique and special. They enter this world with their own particular destiny. An apple seed naturally becomes an apple tree. It cannot produce pears or oranges. As parents, our most important role is to recognize, honor, and then nurture our child’s natural and unique growth process. We are not required in any way to mold them into who we think they should be. Yet we are responsible to support them wisely in ways that draw out their individual gifts and strengths.
Our children do not need us to fix them or make them better, but they are dependent on our support to grow. We provide the fertile ground for their seeds of greatness to sprout. They have the power to do the rest. Within an apple seed is the perfect blueprint for its growth and development. Likewise, within the developing mind, heart, and body of every child is the perfect blueprint for that child’s development. Instead of thinking that we must do something to make our children good, we must recognize that our children are already good.
By applying positive-parenting skills, parents can learn to support their children’s natural growth process and to avoid interfering. Without an understanding of how children naturally develop, parents commonly experience unnecessary frustration, disappointment, worry, and guilt and unknowingly block or inhibit parts of their children’s development. For example, when a parent doesn’t understand a child’s unique sensitivity, not only is the parent more frustrated, but the child gets the message something is wrong with him. This mistaken belief, “something is wrong with me,” becomes imprinted in the child and the gifts that come from increased sensitivity are restricted.

Every Child Has His or Her Own Unique Problems

Besides being born innocent and good, every child comes into this world with his or her own unique problems. As parents, our role is to help children face their unique challenges. I grew up in a family of seven children and, although we had the same parents and the same opportunities, all seven children turned out completely different. I now have three daughters ages twenty-five, twenty-two, and thirteen. Each one is, and has always been, completely different, with a different set of strengths and weaknesses.
As parents, we can help our children, but we cannot take away their unique problems and challenges. With this insight, we can worry less, instead of focusing on changing them or solving their problems. Trusting more helps the parent as well as the child. We can let our children be themselves and focus more on helping them grow in reaction to life’s challenges. When parents respond to their children from a more relaxed and trusting place, children have a greater opportunity to trust in themselves, their parents, and the unknown future.
Each child has his or her own personal destiny. Accepting this reality reassures parents and helps them to relax and not take responsibility for every problem a child has. Too much time and energy is wasted trying to figure out what we could have done wrong or what our children should have done instead of accepting that all children have issues,problems, and challenges. …
Children have their own set of challenges and gifts, and there is nothing we can do to alter who they are.
At difficult times, when we begin to think something is wrong with our children, we must come back to remembering that they are from heaven. They are perfect the way they are and have their own unique challenges in life. …
Children need compassion and help, but they also need their unique challenges to grow.
For every child, the healthy process of growing up means there will be challenging times. By learning to accept and embrace the limitations imposed by their parents and the world, children can learn such essential life skills as forgiveness, delayed gratification, acceptance, cooperation, creativity, compassion, courage, persistence, self-correction, self-esteem, self-sufficiency, and self-direction. For example:
  • Children cannot learn to be forgiving unless there is someone to forgive.
  • Children cannot develop patience or learn to delay gratification if everything comes their way when they want it.
  • Children cannot learn to accept their own imperfections if everyone around them is perfect.
  • Children cannot learn to cooperate if everything always goes their way.
  • Children cannot learn to be creative if everything is done for them.
  • Children cannot learn compassion and respect unless they also feel pain and loss.
  • Children cannot learn courage and optimism unless they are faced with adversity.
  • Children cannot develop persistence and strength if everything is easy.
  • Children cannot learn to self-correct unless they experience difficulty, failure, or mistakes.
  • Children cannot feel self-esteem or healthy pride unless they overcome obstacles to achieve something.
  • Children cannot develop self-sufficiency unless they experience exclusion or rejection.
  • Children cannot be self-directed unless they have opportunities to resist authority and/or not get what they want.