how to teach silence?


Posted by appa | Posted in communication, listen | Posted on 18-12-2007

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[Note: I’m not trying to explain what Suresh means, I’m just sharing some incidents in my life that seems to be a bit along similar lines]

Usually when I interact with an infant I see I have this tendency that I always want him to do something. I want him to smile when I make a face, I want to do something to make him laugh, try some activity like making some noise or shaking some rattle or doll and see what his reaction is. And if he smiles I want to do more of it, if he dosent want to try something else. But if he’s just sitting still, all by himself, if he seems disinterested, then a kind of restlessness comes up sooner or later – some impulsive action like let me pick up something, let me make him say something, let me try to put him on his tummy and see if he wants to crawl, let me give him some object to grasp, try to make him play…

Of course, interaction is good for the infants, it helps them to develop. However once in a way I am able to overcome this impulsive behaviour of mine, and and just be with him quietly.

If he is quiet its ok, or even if he does something, no encouragement or reaction from me. He is wide awake, he is playful – but I just smile at him. After a while, he too becomes very still and curious, he looks straight at me as if he’s studying me… We’re just sitting there mesmerized in each other’s presence… for a long time. Suddenly he makes some sound, or he laughs and then continues in silence for some more time. These are undescribably beautiful moments.

I dont know whether I taught him silence, but I imagine that I convey he needn’t feel compelled to have to do something all of the time 🙂

the great takeover


Posted by appa | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 18-12-2007

Now that this fellow is taking over, I can sit back and relax… 😉

retirement plan

Heh heh, but seriously – I hope I manage to not let any of my own ambitions or interests bother him! :mrgreen:


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